The following is an excerpt from an article I was invited to write for the Andrew Christian blog.
If we’re to believe what the porn industry tells us, straight people have an endless supply of sexual inventiveness. But the porn industry isn’t exactly known for being realistic. Moving past online fantasies and into reality, a survey on real-life U.S. couples found that 30 percent of men and 19 percent of women desire more diversity in the bedroom.
I spend my days researching sex and relationships (and, yes, it’s as fun as it sounds), but I often find myself chatting with heterosexual couples who look bewildered after I suggest they try a sexual behavior that gay men commonly enlist in their bedrooms. The couples then inform me that they’ve never heard of such an act, not to mention attempted it. And the truth is that so many behaviors we consider “gay” can easily be adapted for straight couples.