The (still) mysterious roots of female sexual desire

In a commentary piece for the Archives of Sexual Behavior, my co-author, Dr. Pepper Schwartz, and I debate the merits of the newly proposed Relational and Bodily Experiences Theory of female sexual desire.

Is sexual desire determined by how a woman was raised to value her sexuality? Alternatively, perhaps desire is biological in nature, having more to do with hormonal changes than oppressive or supportive childhood experiences.  Or maybe it’s all about her current relationship satisfaction, and when she is happiest she feels more interested in sex. These are all issues we take on in our newly published commentary.

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Have yourself a kinky Christmas

This article appears on the Andrew Christian website. Click here to be taken to the full-length article. 

It’s officially November, which basically means it’s December 24 until we make it to Christmas. Whether you enjoy excessive holiday spirit or just the spirits you can excessively enjoy during the holidays, we can all get a little festive in the bedroom. So be extra good (or extra naughty) and try out one or two of these holiday kinks

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5 Things Straight Couples Could Learn From Gay Sex

The following is an excerpt from an article I was invited to write for the Andrew Christian blog.

If we’re to believe what the porn industry tells us, straight people have an endless supply of sexual inventiveness. But the porn industry isn’t exactly known for being realistic. Moving past online fantasies and into reality, a survey on real-life U.S. couples found that 30 percent of men and 19 percent of women desire more diversity in the bedroom.

I spend my days researching sex and relationships (and, yes, it’s as fun as it sounds), but I often find myself chatting with heterosexual couples who look bewildered after I suggest they try a sexual behavior that gay men commonly enlist in their bedrooms. The couples then inform me that they’ve never heard of such an act, not to mention attempted it. And the truth is that so many behaviors we consider “gay” can easily be adapted for straight couples.

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Psychology Today: A Sexual Revolution Is Happening…Again

There’s yet another movement towards sexual fulfillment.

The sexual revolutions of the twentieth century did a lot: the legalization of birth control and contraceptives, giving women the right to vote, criminalizing marital rape, introducing the one night stand and casual sex for both men and women, among other things. But these progressive trends toward sexual liberalism didn’t reach the older generations of their respective times.

Now that Baby Boomers are reaching old age, however, this is likely to change.

Sociologist Barbara Risman, Ph.D. and I dive into this new leg of the Sexual Revolution in our new Psych Today article. Read up!